RE: Who hasn't been badly flamed?

["Gary R. Van Sickle" <g dot r dot vansickle at worldnet dot att dot net>]

> From: Christopher Faylor
> Sent: Thursday, September 08, 2005 10:51 PM
> To: The Cygwin-Talk Malingering List
> Subject: Re: Who hasn't been badly flamed?
> 
> On Thu, Sep 08, 2005 at 09:16:22PM -0500, Gary R. Van Sickle wrote:
> > From: Christopher Faylor                                    
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> > On Tue, Sep 06, 2005 at 11:36:19PM -0500, Gary R. Van 
> Sickle wrote:                                                 
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> >>>It is funny sometimes what people consider to be a 
> "flame". Sometimes 
> >>>people do rude or inconsiderate things which, while lacking any 
> >>>vituperative language can, nonetheless serve as fodder for an 
> >>>aggrieved reaction.  The original mailer can fall back on 
> "I didn't say anything"
> >>>but, in reality, they are just trolls.  I think I'll take a good 
> >>>flame over a troll any day.
> >>
> >>Hookay, let's just save this one up for future use, shall we?  ;-)
> >
> >Huh?  Are you taking something in the above personally?
> >
> >No Chris, you've misunderstood my comment.  I know a guy who does 
> >exactly what you describe on a periodic basis[1].  Sometimes 
> it sounds 
> >like he doesn't even realize he does it, though I'm pretty sure he 
> >does.  At any rate, by "save this one up for future use", I simply 
> >meant that, should the opportunity present itself, showing him your 
> >exposition may be instructive and/or informative to him.
> 
> Ah.  So, I still didn't have this quite right.
> 
> After my coffee, I had thought that you were implying that 
> you were going to remind me of my preference for "flaming 
> over trolling" the next time you indulged in a flame.

The "next" time I indulged in a "flame"?  Perhaps it is my turn to do some
rereading, in particular your post of what you consider the definition of
"flame" is.  I don't recall "flaming" anybody here by any definition I'm
aware of.  It's certainly not the reason I've been here for an age and a
half.

>  I 
> thought you might have been poking a little bit of fun at 
> yourself

I'm far too serious for such shenanigans.

;-)

> rather than (my original impression) taking 
> something I said personally.  I apologized because I thought 
> you were doing something sort of self-deprecating and I'd 
> initially missed it.  Thanks for setting me straight and 
> apologies for still getting it wrong.  I haven't been getting 
> much sleep lately and it is beginning to show.
> 

Certainly there are no apologies necessary for an honest misunderstanding.

> You have a good idea there.  I think I'll hold onto my 
> apology for similar reasons.  The next time I come up against 
> someone who refuses to admit any fault I can use my message 
> as an example of how someone who thinks they made a mistake 
> can honestly apologize for it rather than trying to cover up 
> or ignore it.
> 

Look at that: Got lemons, make lemonade, everybody wins!

> >[1] I think; I still don't know what "vituperative" means.  
> I gotta buy 
> >myself a dictionary one of these days.
> 
> I use dictionary.reference.com, myself.  I even checked that 
> I was using vituperative the way I meant to when I used the above.
> 
> Actually, now that I think of it, I keep meaning to switch to 
> en.wiktionary.org.
> 
> References below.
> 

Thanks, but I must have missed your use of "erudite".  That one I did know.

> I'm glad that we're finally starting to get along, btw.

The Chris Faylor that I've seen here for the past month or so and I have
always gotten along, and always will.  It's the other, less well-behaved one
that pops up from time to time that causes me and many others considerable
concern.

>  I do 
> think highly of your technical ability

Well thank you.  As I believe I have stated several times in the past, the
feeling is more than mutual.

> and, as you know, I've 
> always appreciated your sense of humor.

<blush> It's my gift, it's my curse.

-- 
Gary R. Van Sickle